I am not sure how to really start this blog post. I never really create rough drafts and edit them. (As you can tell from my grammatical errors and nonsensical ramblings.) I wanted this post to be different. As if my words could move you or effect you or tug on your heart strings. I just do not think I am that kind of writer. I do not think I am actually a writer. I am just a mom with a blog like 25 thousand other moms out there. So while I am no Brene Brown with fabulous writing skills (I love reading her stuff), I am going to just go with it anyways.
Sometimes life seems as if it is too much to take. When one difficult hurdle comes in our path it usually is the set up for many other hurdles for us to cross. My friend needs help. She has spent the past year helping, supporting & caring for her ill mother. Her mother lost her battle just last month. I cannot imagine what losing your mother feels like. The woman who gave birth to you, has loved you, laughed with you, cried with you, felt your heartbreak & has felt heartbreak of her own. Holidays, birthdays, life milestones & days you are sick and just need to talk to your mom will never be the same again. The mixed emotions of the grief from losing your mother, but the relief that comes with not watching her be in pain anymore. These probably just touch on the surface of what my friend is going through.
My friend also lived in a different state than her mother. She spent much of the year taking off of work and traveling back and forth between the two states. Now while I do not know what losing a parent feels like, I do know what being broke and not knowing how you are going to pay your bills feels like.
I started a new job in March. With a new job comes the anticipation of sick days and paid time off because you have none of that in the beginning. I was not too worried about it because my son and I are pretty healthy and I never really have to take sick days. Within that month we had the stomach flu, my son had strep throat and then he had a bad reaction to the medication that was supposed to heal his strep throat. I took a lot of time off of work with no pay. I was very blessed and thankful that someone was able to help me out. I want to do the same for my friend.
I know $1,000 sounds like a lot of money, but in this day and age it really isn’t. It is easy to spend $1,000 in two bill payments. Rent can range from $600-$800, another $100 for utilities and that does not even include gas for your vehicle, food, car insurance, phone payment & small necessities of life. What I am getting at is when I was hurting for money and had no way to pay my bills, there was absolutely nothing I could do about it. Most people live paycheck to paycheck and the slightest thing can throw everything off and you are up shit creek.
While I may not be able to help my friend with the grief of losing her mother, maybe I can at least help her pay rent for one month. If you can please check out the website I made for her. No amount is too small. And it is going to a good cause. And if you do not feel comfortable paying online you can always mail me gift cards, letters of encouragement or anything else you see fit. I mean talking about someone needing a spa treatment day! My friend is a kind, giving, loving, happy soul. She is just going through a difficult journey right now, like we all do at different times in our lives.